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Christian Financial Freedom

A Guide to Financial Freedom

English: End of the Second Epistle of Peter an...

English: End of the Second Epistle of Peter and beginning of the First Epistle of John in the same column of the codex. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

….. It is important for a Christian to be able to recognize financial bondage, but it is equally important to know how to achieve freedom. Financial freedom manifests itself in every aspect of the Christian’s life – relief from worry and tension about overdue bills, a clear conscience before God and before other men, and the absolute assurance that God is in control of his finances.

This is not to say that a Christian’s life will be totally void of any difficulties in the area of finances. Often, God will allow the consequences of earlier actions to remain in order to reinforce the lesson; also God does not promise to remove every difficulty. But no matter what circumstances are encountered, God promises peace.

When God manages our finances, we have nothing to worry about. He is the master of the universe. It is His wisdom that we are seeking. We’re still human beings and subject to making a mistake at any moment, for even when we understand God’s principles, it is possible to step out of His will, as we all do from time to time. But as soon as we admit the error and let

God take control again, we are back under His guidance. Once a Christian truly accepts and experiences financial freedom, there will never be a desire to stay outside of God’s will. Perfect peace is what is promised and perfect peace is what God delivers.

In our society, there are some who have found financial freedom, but I have never met a non-Christian who had true freedom from worry, anxiety, tension, harassment, or bitterness about money. Once someone experiences and lives financial freedom (meaning freedom from the bondage of debts, freedom from oppression of others, freedom from envy and covetousness or greed and freedom from resentfulness), that person stands out like a beacon at sea.

Steps to Financial Freedom

How can we achieve financial freedom? What must we do according to God’s plan?

Transfer ownership

A Christian must transfer ownership of every possession to God. This means money, time, family, material possessions, education, even earning potential for the future. This is essential to experience the Spirit-filled life in the area of finances (Psalms 8:6).

A Christian must realize that there is absolutely no substitute for this step. If you believe that you are the owner of even a single possession, then the events affecting that possession are going to affect your attitude. God will not force His will on us. He will not put His perfect will into our lives unless we first surrender our will to Him.

If, however, we make a total transfer of everything to God, He will demonstrate His ability. It is important to understand and accept God’s conditions for His control (Deuteronomy 5:32,33). God will keep His promise to provide every need we have through physical, material, and spiritual means, according to His perfect plan.

It is simple to say, “I make total transfer of everything to God,” but not so simple to do. At first, anyone will experience some difficulty in consistently seeking God’s will in the area of material things because we are so accustomed to self-management and control. But financial freedom comes from knowing God is in control.

What a great relief it is to turn our burdens over to Him. Then, if something happens to the car, you can say, “Father, I gave this car to You; I’ve maintained it to the best of my ability, but I don’t own it. It belongs to You, so do with it whatever You would like.” Then look for the blessing that God has in store as a result of this attitude.

Freedom from debt

A Christian must get out of debt altogether. Let me define a scriptural debt. Debt exists with any of the following condition:

Payment is past due for money, goods, or services that are owed to other people.

The total value of unsecured liabilities exceeds total assets. In other words, if you had to cash-out at any time, there would be a negative balance on your account.

Anxiety is produced in the area of financial responsibility when the family’s basic needs are not being met.

Six steps to becoming free from debt

1. Written plan

A written plan is absolute necessity for everyone who is in financial bondage.

Use a written plan of all expenditures and their order of importance. The order of importance is crucial because we have lost the point of reference between needs, wants, and desires. Let’s examine the difference between a need, a want, and a desire.

Needs. These are the purchases necessary to provide your basic requirements such as food, clothing, a job, home, medical coverage, and others. “And if we have food and covering, with these we shall be content” (1 Timothy 6:8).

Wants. Wants involve choices about the quality of goods to be used: dress clothes versus work clothes, steak versus hamburger, a new car versus a used car, etc. a point of reference for determining wants in a Christian’s life is given in 1 Peter 3:3,4: “And let not your adornment be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses: but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”

Desires. These are choices according to God’s plan which can be made only out of surplus funds after all other obligations have been met.

We read in 1 John 2:15,16, “Do not love the world, nor the things of the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world.”

2. Living essentials

A Christian in debt must stop any expenditure which is not absolutely essential for living (Proverbs 21:17). Look for services around the home that can be done without outside cost. Also begin to develop some home skills. By utilizing individual skills, you can begin to cut down on some of the expenditures which are not really essential.

What I’m expressing is an attitude of conservatism. Begin to eliminate expenditures which are not essential, remembering that many expenditures are assumed to be essential only because of our society. Fifty years ago almost all the labor supplied in the home was through family members – not professionals who charged for it.

Christians who are in bondage must begin to assess what things they can do for themselves and stop the frivolities. Once a Christian has begun to do these things, whether in debt or not, it will become fun and will help stabilize the family life.

3. Think before buying

A Christian who is in debt (and even one who is not) should think before every purchase (Proverbs 24:3). Every purchase should be evaluated as follows:

  • Is it a necessity? Have I assessed whether it is a need, a want, or a desire?
  • Does the purchase reflect my Christian ethics? (For example, Playboy does not reflect Christian ethics.) Can I continue to take magazines, encyclopedias, or book and record subscriptions while I owe others?
  • Is this the very best possible buy I can get, or am I purchasing only because I have this credit card?
  • Is it a highly depreciable item? Am I buying something that will devaluate quickly? (Swimming pools, boats, sports cars all fall into this category).
  • Does it require costly upkeep? (There are many items that fall within this category – mobile homes, swimming pools, color television sets.)

4. Discontinue credit buying

A Christian in debt should also begin buying on a cash basis only. Often someone in debt, with an asset that can be converted into cash, will ask, “Would it be better to sell this asset and pay off the debts?” This is a possible option, but it would only be valid if a person first learned new spending habits; otherwise it only treats the symptom rather than the problem.

For example, I remember a couple who were in dire financial bondage from credit card debts. They owed over $20,000 and paid in excess of $4,000 a year in interest alone. In our planning, it seemed reasonable for them to sell their home and apply the money to their debts, which would have then been paid off. They did so, but less than a year later they were back in again with about $6,000 in credit card debts and no home this time.

What happened? They had treated a symptom rather than the problem. The problem was an attitude dealing with credit cards. I had their assurance that they would not use the credit cards; but without having worked out a plan to discontinue the use of those cards, they fell right back into the same trap again. As soon as they needed something and lacked cash to purchase it, out came the card.

The principle to observe is this: If you are in debt from the misuse of credit, stop – totally stop – using it. One of the best things to do with credit cards when in debt is to cut them in two. Then mail the cards back to their respective companies and ask them to mail you no more. Include in your letter the plan for paying that credit card debt, and then commit yourself to buying solely on a cash basis.

Once good habits have been developed and the bondage from the misuse of credit cards has been broken, then evaluate the feasibility of converting assets to pay off the debts. In that way you won’t simply be treating the symptom. Once someone has overextended his finances, it is necessary to sacrifice some of the wants and desires in life to get current; otherwise he will continue to borrow and only get deeper into bondage.

5. Avoid leverage

When in debt, avoid the use of what is called “leverage.” Leverage is the ability to control a large asset with a relatively small amount of invested capital.

For example, if you bought a piece of property that cost $10,000 and required $1,000 down, that represents a nine to one lever. You have invested 10% of your money and borrowed 90%.

Borrowing money to invest is not a scriptural principle. For when a Christian invests and borrows the money from a bank to do so, the repayment of the bank loan is dependent on the investment making a profit. But if a profit is not made and the investor can’t make the payments, he loses the investments and still owes the bank. The result? Financial bondage.

6. Practice saving

A Christian should practice saving money on a regular basis. This includes those who are in debt. Even if it is only $5 a month, develop a discipline of saving.

This does not mean to store up a large amount of money while failing to pay your creditors, but one of the best habits that a young couple can develop is saving a small amount on a regular basis.

Everyone in our society living above the poverty level has the capability to save money, but many fail to do so because they believe that the amount that they can save is so small it’s meaningless. Others believe that God frowns upon a Christian saving anything. Neither of these two reasons is scriptural. “There is precious treasure and oil in the dwelling of the wise, but a foolish man swallows it up” (Proverbs 21:20). The common attitude presented in the Bible is to save on a regular basis, and it is important that Christians develop good habits to replace bad habits.

All told, to get out of debt, a Christian must utilize these points we’ve just discussed; there is no alternative under God’s plan for being debt free.

Establish the Tithe

Every Christian should establish the tithe as the minimum testimony to God’s ownership. How can anyone say that he has given God the total ownership mentioned earlier when he has never given testimony to that fact?

It is through sharing that we bring His power in finances into focus. In every case, God wants us to give the first part to Him, but He also wants us to pay our creditors. That requires establishing a plan and probably making sacrifices of wants and desires until all debts are current.

You cannot sacrifice God’s part – that is not your prerogative as a Christian. “Now this I say, he who sows sparingly shall also reap sparingly; and he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully” (2 Corinthians 9:6). So what is the key? If a sacrifice is necessary (and it almost always is), do not sacrifice God’s or your creditor’s share. Choose a portion of your own expenditures to sacrifice.

Accept God’s Provision

To obtain financial peace, recognize and accept that God’s provision is used to direct each of our lives. Often Christians lose sight of the fact that God’s will can be accomplished through a withholding of funds; we think that He can direct us only by abundance of money. But God does not choose for everyone to live in great abundance. As stated before, this does not imply poverty, but it may mean that God wants us to be more responsive to His day-by-day control.

Each Christian must learn to live on what God provides and not come under the pressure brought on by driving desires for wealth and material things. This necessitates planning life-styles around the provision that God has supplied – it can be done.

Avoid Indulgence

Every Christian, to achieve financial freedom, must avoid the indulgences of life.

The range in which God’s will can be found is between Luke 9:23, when Christ said, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me,” and John 6:27, “Do not work for the food which perishes, but for the food which endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man shall give to you, for on Him the Father, even God, has set His seal.”

Does your lifestyle fit within this range? Are you willing to trust God and deny yourself some indulgences? As you do, He will supply you even more. Unfortunately, most of us are self-indulgers, rarely passing up a want or desire, much less a need. But, in light of the needs around us, it is important that Christians assess their standards of living. Most of us can reduce our expenditures substantially without a real reduction in living standard.

Seek Christian Counseling

It is important to seek good Christian counseling whenever in doubt. “Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed” (Proverbs 15:22). God admonishes us to seek counsel and not to rely solely on our own resources. In financial planning, many Christians become frustrated because they lack the necessary knowledge and then give up. God has supplied others with the ability to help in the area of finances. Seek them out.

The following material is provided as a practical guide to help you establish a family budget.

Steps to Making a Budget

In making and using a budget, there are several logical steps, each requiring individual effort. A sample form for budgeting is shown at the end of this section. Use this form to guide your budget preparation.

List Expenditures in the Home on a Monthly Basis

1. Fixed expenses

  • Tithe
  • Federal income taxes (if taxes are deducted, ignore this item)
  • State income taxes (if taxes are deducted, ignore this item)
  • Federal Social Security taxes (if taxes are deducted, ignore this item)
  • Housing expenses (payment/rent)
  • Residence insurance
  • Other

2. Variable expenses

  • Food
  • Outstanding debts
  • Utilities
  • Insurance (life, health, auto)
  • Entertainment, recreation
  • Clothing allowance
  • Medical/Dental
  • Savings
  • Miscellaneous

NOTE: In order to accurately determine variable expenses, it is suggested that both husband and wife keep an expense diary for 30 days. List every expenditure, even quarterly purchases.

List Available Income Per Month

  • Salary
  • Rents
  • Notes
  • Interests
  • Dividends
  • Income tax refund
  • Other

NOTE: If you operate on a non-fixed monthly income, use a yearly average divided into months.

Compare Income vs. Expenses

If total income exceeds total expenses, you have only to implement a method of budget control in your home. If, however, expenses exceed income (or more stringent controls in spending are desired), additional steps are necessary. In that case, an analysis of each budget area to reduce expenses is called for. These areas are outlined below.

Budget Busters

“Budget busters” are the large potential problem areas that can ruin a budget. Failure to control even one of these problems can result in financial disaster in the home. This area is evaluated by typical budget percentages for a $12,000 – $18,000 income. Naturally, these percentages are not absolute and will vary with income and geographical location.

1. Housing (32% of the net income)

Typically, this is one of the largest home budget problems. Many families buy a home they can’t afford, motivated by peer pressure or some other pressure. It is not necessary for everyone to own a home. The decision to buy or rent should be based on needs and financial ability rather than internal or external pressure.

2. Food (15% of net income)

Many families buy too much food. Others buy too little. Typically, the average American family buys the wrong type of food. The reduction of a family’s food bill requires quantity and quality planning.

Hints on grocery shopping

  • Always use a written list of needs.
  • Try to conserve gas by buying food for a longer time period and in larger quantities.
  • Avoid buying when hungry (especially if you’re a “sugarholic”).
  • Use a calculator, if possible, to total purchases.
  • Reduce or eliminate paper products – paper plates, cups, napkins, etc. (Use cloth napkins.)
  • Evaluate where to purchase sundry items such as shampoo, mouthwash, etc. (These are normally somewhat cheaper at chain drug store sales.)
  • Avoid processed and sugar-coated cereals. (These are expensive and have little nutritional value.)
  • Avoid prepared foods, such as TV dinners, pot pies, cakes, etc. (You are paying for expensive labor that you can provide.)
  • Determine good meat cuts that are available from roasts or shoulders and have the butcher cut these for you. (Buying steaks by the package on sale is fairly inexpensive also.)
  • Try house brand canned products. (These are normally cheaper and just as nutritious.)
  • Avoid products in a cyclical price hike. Substitute or eliminate.
  • Shop for advertised specials. (These are usually posted in the store window.)
  • Avoid stores that give merchandise stamps if their prices reflect the cost of the stamps. (Not all do – some simply substitute stamps for other advertising.)
  • Purchase milk, bread, eggs, etc. from specialty outlet stores if available, as prices are usually 10-15% lower. (Keep some dry milk on hand to reduce “quick” trips to the store.)
  • Avoid buying non-grocery items in a grocery supermarket except on sale. (These are normally “high mark-up items.)
  • For baby foods, use normal foods processed through a blender.
  • Leave the children at home to avoid unnecessary pressure.
  • Check every item as it is being “rung up” at the store and again when you get home.

CONSIDER CANNING FRESH VEGETABLES WHENEVER POSSIBLE. Make bulk purchases with other families at farmers’ markets and such. (NOTE: secure canning supplies during off seasons.)

3. Automobiles (15% of net income)

The advertising media refers to us as “consumers” but that’s not always the best description. I believe that P.T. Barnum had a more apt word: suckers. Often we are unwise in our decision making when it comes to our machines – especially cars.

Many families will buy new cars they cannot afford and trade them long before their utility is depleted. Those who buy a new car, keep it for less than four years, and then trade it for a new model have wasted the maximum amount of money. Some people, such as salesmen who drive a great deal, need new cars frequently; most of us do not. We swap cars because we want to – not because we have to. Many factors enter here such as ego, esteem, maturity, etc.

4. Debts (5% of net imcome)

It would be great if most budgets included 7% debts or less. Unfortunately, the norm in American families is far in excess of this amount. As previously discussed, credit cards, bank loans, and installment credit have made it possible for families to go deeply into debt. What things can you do once this situation exists?

  • Destroy all of your credit cards as a first step.
  • Establish a payment schedule that includes all creditors.
  • Contact all creditors, honestly relate your problems and arrange an equitable repayment plan.
  • Buy on a cash basis and sacrifice your wants and desires until you are current.

5. Insurance (5% of net income)

It is unfortunate to see many families misled in this area. Few people understand insurance, either how much is needed or what kind is necessary. Almost no one would allow someone to sell him a rolls Royce when he could afford only a Chevrolet; yet, many purchase high-cost insurance when their needs dictate otherwise.

Insurance should be used as supplementary provision for the family, not protection or profit. An insurance plan is not designed for saving money or retirement. Ask anyone who assumed it was; the ultimate result was disillusionment and disappointment.

In our society, insurance can be used as an inexpensive vehicle to provide future family income and thus release funds today for family use and the Lord’s work. In excess, this same insurance can put a family in debt, steal the Lord’s money and transfer dependence to the world.

One of your best insurance assets is to have a trustworthy agent in charge of your program. A good insurance agent is usually one who can select from several different companies to provide you with the best possible buy and who will created a brief, uncomplicated plan to analyze your exact needs.

6. Recreation/entertainment (7% of net income)

We are a recreation-oriented country. That is not necessarily bad if put in the proper perspective. But those who are in debt cannot use their creditor’s money to entertain themselves. The normal tendency is to escape problems, even if only for a short while – even if the problems then become more acute. Christians must resist this urge and control recreation and entertainment expenses while in debt.

What a terrible witness it is for a Christian who is already in financial bondage to indulge himself at the expense of others. God knows we need rest and relaxation, and He will often provide it from unexpected sources once our attitude is correct. Every believer, whether in debt or not, should seek to reduce entertainment expenses. This can usually be done without sacrificing quality family time.

Recreation hints

  • Plan vacations during off-seasons if possible.
  • Consider a camping vacation to avoid motel and food expenses (Christian friends can pool the expenses of camping items.)
  • Select vacation areas in your general locale.
  • Consider swapping residences with a Christian family in another locale to provide an inexpensive vacation.
  • Use some family games in place of movies. (Like some of those unused games received at Christmas.)
  • Consider two or more families taking vacation trips together to reduce expense and increase fellowship.
  • If flying, use the least expensive coach fare (i.e., late night or early morning usually saves 10-20%).

7. Clothing (5% of net income)

Many families in debt sacrifice this area in their budget because of excesses in other areas. And yet, with prudent planning and buying, your family could be clothed neatly without great expense. This requires effort on your part in terms of:

  • Saving enough money to buy without using credit.
  • Educating family members on care of clothing.
  • Applying discipline with children to enforce these habits.
  • Developing skills in making and mending clothing.

Learn to be utilizers of our resources rather than consumers. How many families have closets full of clothes they no longer wear because they are “out of style”?

Many families with large surplus incomes spend excessively in the area of clothes. Assess whether it really matters that you have all of the latest styles. Do your purchases reflect good utility rather than ego? Do you buy clothes to satisfy a need or a desire?

Budget Hints

  • Make as many of the children’s clothes as time will allow. (Average savings is 50-60%)
  • Make a written list of clothing needs and purchase during the off season as much as possible.
  • Select outfits that can be mixed and used in multiple combinations rather than as a single set.
  • Frequent the discount outlets which carry unmarked ‘name brand’ goods.
  • Frequent authentic factory outlet stores for closeout values of top quality.
  • Select home washable fabrics in new clothes.
  • Use coin-operated dry cleaning machines instead of commercial cleaners.
  • Practice early repair for damaged clothing. Learn to utilize all clothing fully (especially children’s wear).

8. Medical/Dental expenses (5% of net income)

You must anticipate these expenses in your budget and set aside funds regularly; failure to do so will wreck your plans and lead to indebtedness. Do not sacrifice family health due to lack of planning, but at the same time, do not use doctors excessively. Proper prevention is much cheaper than correction. You can avoid many dental bills by teaching your children to eat the right foods and clean their teeth properly. Your dentist will supply all the information you need on this subject. Many doctor bills can be avoided in the same way. Take proper care of your body through diet, rest, and exercise, and it will respond with good health. Abuse your body and you must ultimately pay through illnesses and malfunctions. This is not to say that all illnesses or problems are caused by neglect, but a great many are.

Do not be hesitant to question doctors and dentists in advance about costs. Also, educate yourself enough to discern when you are getting good value for your money. Most ethical professional men will not take offense at your questions. If they do, that may be a hint to change services.

In the case of prescriptions, shop around. You will be amazed to discover the wide variance in prices from one store to the next. Ask about cash discounts, too. Many stores will give 5-10% off for cash purchases.

9. Savings (5% of net income)

It is important that some savings be established in the budget. Otherwise, the use of credit becomes a lifelong necessity and debt a way of life. Your savings will allow you to purchase items for cash and shop for the best buys, irrespective of the store.

Savings Hints

  • Use a company payroll withdrawal, if possible. This removes the money before you receive it.
  • Use an automatic bank withdrawal from your checking account.
  • Write your savings account a check just as if it were a creditor.
  • When an existing debt is paid off, reallocate that money to savings.

10. Variable household expenses (6% of net income)

These can include a myriad of items. Some of the expenses occur monthly while others occur on an as-needed basis (such as appliances).

One of the most important factors in home expenses is you. If you can perform routine maintenance and repair, considerable expenses can be avoided. Many people rationalize not doing these things on the basis that time is too valuable; that is nonsense. If every hour of the day is tied up in the pursuit of money then, as previously defined, you’re in bondage. A part of care and maintenance around the home related to family life, particularly the training of children. When they see mom and dad willing to do some physical labor to help around the home, they will learn good habits. But if you refuse to get involved, why should they? Where will they ever learn the skills of self-sufficiency?

Some men avoid working on home projects because they say they lack the necessary skills. Well, those skills are learned, not gifted. There are many good books that detail every area of home maintenance. As previously mentioned, at some point in the future many of these skills will be necessities rather than choices.

Living on a budget is not only prudent, but it can be fun. As you have successes in various areas, share them with others. Challenge your children as well.

You now have the necessary tools to establish a budget. The rest is up to you. God’s blessing rests upon those whose lives are lived “Properly and in an orderly manner” (1 Corinthians 14:40).

THE FAMILY BUDGET GUIDE

GROSS INCOME PER MONTH              ___________ 
Salary                   ___________ 
Interest                 ___________ 
Dividends                ___________ 
Other                    ___________

Less: 
 1. Tithe                           ___________ 
 2. Tax (Est. - include
    Fed.,State,FICA)                ___________ 

NET SPENDABLE INCOME                ___________ 
(Income per month minus tithe and tax) 

 3. Housing      (38%)*             ___________ 
    Mortgage (rent)      ___________ 
    Insurance            ___________ 
    Taxes                ___________ 
    Electricity          ___________ 
    Gas                  ___________ 
    Water                ___________ 
    Sanitation           ___________ 
    Telephone            ___________ 
    Maintenance          ___________ 
    Other                ___________  

 4. Food         (12%)*             ___________ 

 5. Automobile   (15%)*             ___________ 
    Payments             ___________ 
    Gas/Oil              ___________ 
    Insurance            ___________ 
    License              ___________ 
    Taxes                ___________ 
    Maint/Repair         ___________ 

 6. Insurance    (5%)*              ___________
    Life                 ___________ 
    Medical              ___________ 
    Other                ___________ 

 7. Debts        (5%)*              ___________
    Credit Cards         ___________ 
    Loans/Notes          ___________ 
    Other                ___________ 

 8. Entertainment
    & Recreation    (5%)*           ___________ 
    Eating Out           ___________ 
    Trips                ___________ 
    Babysitters          ___________ 
    Activities           ___________ 
    Vacation             ___________ 
    Other                ___________  

 9. Clothing     (5%)*              ___________ 10. Savings      (5%)*              ___________ 

11. Medical 
    Expenses     (5%)*              ___________
    Doctor               ___________ 
    Dentist              ___________ 
    Drugs                ___________ 
    Other                ___________  

12.Miscellaneous (5%)*              ___________ 
    Toiletry, cosmetics  ___________ 
    Beauty,barber        ___________ 
    Laundry, cleaning    ___________ 
    Allowances, lunches  ___________ 
    Subscriptions        ___________ 
    Gifts(inc.Christmas) ___________ 
    Cash                 ___________ 
    Other                ___________ 

13. School &
    Child Care       (8%)*           ___________  
    Tuition              ___________
    Materia              ___________     
    Transportation       ___________
    Day Care             ___________     

14. Investments                     ___________
TOTAL EXPENSES                      ___________ 
INCOME VS. EXPENSE  
Spendable Net Income                ___________ 
Less Expenses                       ___________ 
**TOTAL 
(Deficit/Surplus)                   ___________ 
15. Unallocated Surplus Income      ___________

* Percentage of net spendable annual income of $25,000.

** This total should break even or show a surplus. If total expenses are greater than net spendable income you must cut back on expenses. Percentages for fixed and variable expenses may be adjusted but total should not exceed net spendable income.

INCOME ALLOCATION
INCOME BUDGET CATEGORY        MONTHLY ALLOCATIONS
  1. Tithe                          ___________
  2. Tax                            ___________
  3. Housing                        ___________
  4. Food                           ___________
  5. Auto                           ___________
  6. Insurance                      ___________
  7. Debts                          ___________
  8. Entertainment/Recreation       ___________
  9. Clothing                       ___________
 10. Savings                        ___________
 11. Medical/Dental                 ___________
 12. Miscellaneous                  ___________
 13. School/Child Care              ___________
 14. Investments                    ___________
 15. Unallocated Surplus Income     ___________

Discipline in following your budget will produce financial freedom in your home.

By Larry Burkett
Christian Financial Concepts

http://www.cbn.com/spirituallife/cbnteachingsheets/a_guide_to_financial_freedom.aspx


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Think on These Things?

You Don’t Have to Believe Your Thoughts

 
 

Are you? ….. “an expert at making myself miserable by taking a neutral thought, turning it into a stressful one, and then spinning that stressful thought into an even more stressful story—one with little or no basis in reality.

….. this is…  “storytelling dukkha” (dukkha)  (the word that the Buddha used to describe suffering, stress, ,,,and just plain unhappiness).”

“…..here are two neutral, fact-based thoughts:”

“A friend is coming over today.”

“I have an appointment with a new doctor next week.”

“Each of these thoughts states a fact, free of emotional content. But then, driven by worry and anxiety over; … health, …. turn them into stressful thoughts:

“My friend’s visit won’t go well.”

“The doctor’s appointment will be a disaster.”…….then to go on with the storytelling…

“My friend will stay much longer than I’m able to visit, but I won’t have the nerve or the discipline to tell her I need to lie down. Then it will take me days to recover and I’ll be mad at myself for not speaking up.”

“The doctor won’t believe how sick I am. He might even think it’s all in my head. And even if he does believe me, he won’t want the hassle of having to deal with a complex case with no easy fix.”

“As Buddhist teachers like to say, the suffering is in the stories.”‘

“Byron Katie discovered a system to stop the suffering. 

……..At the outset, it helps to recognize that the mind is going to think what it’s going to think. Trying to control the thoughts that pop into your mind is a fruitless endeavor. What matters to your well-being is not which thoughts arise but how you respond to them. If you can learn to respond skillfully, you’re much more likely to keep a stressful thought from turning into a full-blown stressful story.”

“Here are Byron Katie’s four questions—questions to ask yourself when you recognize that you’re caught in the net of a stressful thought:

1. Is the thought true?

2. Am I absolutely sure that it’s true?                                                                                               Byron Katie

3. How do I feel when I think the thought?

4. Who would I be without the thought?”

“Before addressing Byron Katie’s fifth step—the turnaround—”…”apply her four questions to the two stressful thoughts ….”

 …..”It’s such a relief to know that I don’t have to believe my thoughts!”

© 2013 Toni Bernhard www.tonibernhard.com

 

To read more about Katie Byron’s work, and Toni’s use of it, including the turnaround fifth step,  please go here:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201310/you-don-t-have-believe-your-thoughts

 

 

 


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How to Cleanse With a Raw Food Diet

In today’s society, many people are looking for ways to eat healthier. Although weight loss is still one of the main reasons why people look for healthier eating options, many want to change their eating habits in general in order to become healthier. Cleansing your body with a raw food diet can be the first step toward developing healthier eating habits all together. A raw food diet provides individuals with a natural diet of unprocessed food that is free of toxins. A raw food cleanse can be helpful to those who want to take a step in changing their eating habits, but may not want to commit to eating only raw foods for a long period of time. There are a few steps one should follow when starting a raw food cleanse.

1 of 6: Pick a Relatively Quiet Time in Your Life to Begin the Raw Food Cleanse

The less distraction that you have around you, the easier it will be to stick to the cleanse and not stray from your eating plan.

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    Do some pre-planning and check your calendar for a 7 to 10 day period without work or family events.

    • It is easier to stick to a plan when you do not have multiple business lunches, birthday parties or dinners to attend.
    • If you do not have a 7 to 10 day block of free time available, select a shorter period of time, such as a three-day weekend. Even if you have to return to work after only 3 or 4 days on the cleanse, it still cuts the amount of time working while cleansing in half.
    • Do not begin the cleanse when the time off is due to a holiday, if you will be spending that holiday celebrating with loved ones. Doing so will make it difficult to stick with a cleanse if the people around you are celebrating with food and drink.

2 of 6: Begin Changing Your Eating Habits a Couple of Days Before You Start the Cleanse

By slowly changing some of the items you eat or drink daily, it will help make the transition to eating only raw food much easier.

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    Cut down on your caffeine intake. Decrease your daily coffee or tea from three cups a day down to two and so on. This will help you eliminate any caffeine withdrawals that you may experience if caffeine is a big part of your day.

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    Eat very simple, bland foods the day before you begin your cleanse.

    • Try to avoid eating fatty foods such as meats. Steer clear of fried foods, sweets and other foods that are high in fat.
    • Stick with as much vegetables and fruit as possible. If you want to add grains to your meals, choose healthy grains such as oats, wheat or quinoa, and steer clear of anything white and processed.
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    Avoid alcohol beginning for a couple of days before your cleanse to help your body ease into the detoxification process. The liver is an important part of the detox process as it helps to remove impurities and toxins from the body. Alcohol stresses the liver and can slow down the rate of detoxification.

3 of 6: Familiarize Yourself With the Guidelines of the Cleanse and Follow Them Step by Step

It is important to plan ahead and know exactly what the steps are in the raw food cleanse. Knowing what is expected of you before you begin will make it easier for you to follow the instructions and do exactly what you are supposed to do.

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    Begin your raw food cleanse by fasting for 24 hours.

    • If you are starting a cleanse on Monday and you eat your dinner the night before on Sunday at 8:00 pm, you will not eat or drink anything other than water until 8:00 pm on Monday.
    • After you complete your fast, you will be able to reintroduce a variety of foods into your diet.
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    Gradually reintroduce specific foods into your diet after you have completed the 24-hour fast. You will continue to eat these foods for the length of the cleanse.

    • Start by introducing fresh, uncooked fruits back into your diet. Fruits are generally easy on the digestive system and by starting with them first after the fast, you are less likely to experience any stomach discomfort. Examples of fruits that are good for cleansing include apples, pears, watermelon, mangos, bananas, grapes, peaches, plums, coconut and any berries.
    • After you have introduced fruit, begin adding some fresh, uncooked vegetables to your diet. You can continue to eat fruits, but may want to alternate between fruits and vegetables or eat a combination of the two. Examples of vegetables that have excellent cleansing properties include cucumbers, celery, red beets, cabbage, onions, avocados and dark, leafy greens.
    • Include leaves, stems and roots of plants in your diet if possible.

4 of 6: Keep a Variety of Fruits and Vegetables Around

By having a wide variety of fruits and vegetables around at all times, it will help you to not get bored with what you are eating.

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    Keep at least one pound of green vegetables handy to add into your diet every day. This will help to minimize your cravings by giving you a wider range of minerals that you would not get if you were just eating fruit.

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    If you find that you crave salty foods a lot, keep some celery handy. Celery can help curb those salt cravings.

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    If you think you might like a particular fruit or vegetable, just buy it and try it. Having different fruits and vegetables around can help you to expand your horizons and also keep you from eating the same things everyday.

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    Add some avocado slices to each meal if you find that eating fruits and vegetables leaves you feeling hungry. Avocados are full of healthy monounsaturated fatty acids that will help to keep you feeling fuller for longer.

5 of 6: Be Creative With the Foods That You Are Eating

Just because your foods have to be raw does not mean that they have to be boring. Get creative and look for alternative ways to prepare your foods.

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    Blend fresh fruits with ice and water to create a smoothie. The added liquid combined with the blended fruit can make you feel fuller than you would if you just ate the fruit.

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    Use a commercial juicer if possible to juice some fresh fruits and vegetables once or twice per day. Juicing provides variety and provides all of the beneficial nutrients in a liquid state.

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    Prepare a raw vegetable salad, but incorporate some fruits that you would not normally add to a salad.

    • A raw spinach leaf salad can be dressed up with some fresh sliced strawberries and pears.
    • Add some flavor to a salad of tossed dark, leafy greens by squeezing some fresh lemon or lime juice over the top.
    • Prepare a guacamole dip from fresh avocados, tomatoes, red onion and lime juice. Use it as a dip for other vegetables.

6 of 6: Know The Foods You Should Avoid

Make sure to pay careful attention to what you are buying when preparing for your diet so that you don’t have foods around that you are not allowed to eat while on the cleanse.

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    Avoid nuts, seeds and oils.

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    Do not use dried herbs or seasonings. If you feel you really need seasoning, use fresh herbs to season your food.

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    Do not hydrate with anything other than water while you are on your cleanse. Drink your water cold, warm or hot. Once per day, choose a sparkling water to add variety, if desired. It is acceptable to have one cup of unsweetened chamomile tea per day, if desired.

Tips

  • It is important to keep in mind that the cleanse you are doing is going to help your body and mind in the long run. By cleansing your body and freeing it of toxins, you are on your way to feeling younger and healthier, and having much more energy.
  • Make sure to wash all of your fresh foods thoroughly before consuming any of them.
  • There is a lot of advice out there on how your raw food cleanse should be structured and what specific food is best for you during your cleanse. It is important to follow tips from experts and to follow the plan that is laid out for your specific cleanse. However, it is also important to do what makes you feel comfortable. If doing an all-juice diet is what you feel would work best for you, then that is what you should try. If you want to combine the fresh juices with your vegetables and fruits, this may work well for you also. Sticking with only vegetables and fruits may also be the way to go for you. By choosing a plan that is recommended by experts and also works well with your personal preferences, you are more likely to complete the cleanse successfully.

Warnings

  • If you are a big coffee or tea drinker, this cleanse may cause you to have headaches during the beginning stages as your body withdrawals from the caffeine it is used to ingesting.
  • There can be downsides to completely changing your diet and cleansing with only raw foods. People have reported excessive tiredness, irritability and extreme food cravings. Others have said that the diet caused them to become very nauseated or vomit.

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Letting Go….and Being Free

English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Being Free can involve some work, but it is possible to choose it, no matter what has happened.

 “When we are faced with the moment of losing something, whether it is a job, a loved one, or a way of being, it can act as a catalyst of reversion, leading us on a path away from ourselves. It is almost as if in order to deal with it we must lose ourselves as well. To be present is harder than letting go of the situation and falling into what overwhelms us. To see ourselves clearly in these moments helps to exist with what is happening. By letting go of ourselves we lose the hold of not only our own reality but of what is true. It is almost as if we prefer to hide in the moment that most scares us, than to see it for what it is so that we can move on. This does make sense, for to admit that we have lost something means that it has really happened. But admitting it is often the first step of recovery into the present, it allows us to come back to our life. To dwell too deeply without acceptance holds nothing more than a quicker exit from the truth.

It is true that some forms of loss are too staggering to see clearly or to accept them for what they are. But these are the most important times, because they can have a life-altering existence. When things move away from us permanently, we seek not the truth of the situation but rather the resistance in our minds and hearts. Truth gets covered up by emotion and protecting ourselves. This in itself overwhelms us to a point where fear keeps us from letting go. The reality of life is movement, changing courses whether permanent or impermanent. Life moves on in the way it is supposed to. By blocking the movement, by holding ourselves in sorrow and deep remorse we cannot move forward. This blocks so much from happening, because at some time you will accept what has happened and it is up to you how you allow yourself to heal. It is important to know that however deep you bury yourself in grief, it truly does not need to take as long to recover.

By letting go of resistance to what has happened, you begin to move forward. By giving yourself the chance to open your eyes and to see the light of a new beginning for yourself, you free yourself from the revolving moment of loss. This path is not endless, it is not forever. Your loss is real, but it is your choice how strongly it will affect you and for how long. I know it can be deep and feel limitless, but you are the one that gives it this power and intensity. Letting go has stages, but it is the beginning that will give you relief. Letting go of the grief and sadness of living in that state of being will help you beyond measure. From this place you will begin to see and remember the good parts of what you lost and perhaps gain joy from that. You will begin to move forward to see joy in life again even without what you have lost. You will always have the memories and love attached, but you do not need to carry grief and sadness with you as well. Life is to be lived and keeping those in your heart helps to share the joy of what life is.

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Moving forward, letting the weight of grief stay behind, lets you see what you really were missing, with clarity. You can gain insight into the truth of your relationship, your life, and how you choose to live from here on in. Remember your life, your emotional well-being, and all the possibilities in your future are limitless, full of truth and happiness. You can let go and still carry the ones you love with you in a way that allows you to be truly happy and existing fully in your own life with peace and emotional freedom.

My journey up to this point has lead me in directions I never thought possible. I was always interested in travel and art. And so I did both, but always felt like something was missing, that I wasn’t me yet. Then one day I was pushed into seeing and releasing something from my past and that I was the one looking through my eyes, that I was finally present in my own life. This change allowed me to become my true self, always evolving and opening up from that moment on.
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